Etiquette is Dead: When My Real Name Brings Out the Casual Racist in You

Today's post is dedicated to something that's been on my mind since I started my current job.     The day I started, I found out I was sharing an office space with a woman in a more senior position than me. Within 10 minutes of superficial chatting, she gave me her cell number and ...

What To Say When Asked: “What Do You Do All Day?”

I hate the phrase “what do you do all day?”.   It stirs up all kinds of stabby feelings towards the asker. To me, it comes across as though they think I’m lazy or unmotivated. I’m neither of these, thank you very much.     In case you were wondering (but probably not because you ...

I’m Burned Out!

I was reading this article from Forbes about employee burn out and I was like "Yep, that's me. Check, check, and check". Growing up as a child of Chinese immigrants, a proper work ethic was often considered more important than breathing. My dad, in his broken English, would say things like "If you don't work ...

Am I Bitch For Not Donating Money to Your Kid’s Fundraiser?

Sorry, but I don't want to donate money to your husband's hockey fundraiser or your kid's school program this year or any year. It's not because I can't afford it, but it's because I find it all too invasive and impersonal. It makes for some awkward conversation when you're standing across my desk and shoving ...

#ShitMyBossSays: January 1, 2018

When people say dumb shit without thinking first, I mostly let it go because who knows how many words I've slaughtered as an ESL person and hoped that no one noticed. But when it's someone in a position of authority and essentially determines your career trajectory, the arch in my eyebrows practically break off. So, ...

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