Category: Etiquette

What Do You Do Outside of Work?

I got asked this question last week when I was in the kitchen after lunch. The question took me by surprise because it was unprompted without any of the usual superficial pre-conversations like "How was your weekend? or Did you know Janet from Finance called in sick again in two weeks. Somebody's getting F-I-R-E-D" and ...

When Managers Gossip

I love a good gossip session (when it doesn’t involve me, obviously. Is that even fair to say?). And I think it’s perfectly okay when co-workers, who are peers, gossip as a way to relieve stress or bond. But I can not get behind managers who gossip with subordinates about other employees in the office. ...

The Fear of Losing Your Job Shouldn’t be Punishment for Demanding a Safe Workplace

During Peak Harvey Weinstein, I read an article about why the sexual harassment rates are so high in the restaurant industry. Like Hollywood actresses, but considerably worse off financially, waitresses endure rampant sexual harassment with impunity. I’ve never worked in the restaurant industry in any capacity, so I can't relate to the open, and often ...

Men Who Throw Tantrums in the Workplace Get Rewarded

Last year, I came across this THR report article revealing Paramount's negotiations with Mel Gibson's Braveheart budget. Apparently, the studio's initial offer was lower than Mel's expectations for what he would need to shoot the film. So, during a meeting with Paramount, when he was told how much money they were willing to put up, ...

Etiquette is Dead: When My Real Name Brings Out the Casual Racist in You

Today's post is dedicated to something that's been on my mind since I started my current job.     The day I started, I found out I was sharing an office space with a woman in a more senior position than me. Within 10 minutes of superficial chatting, she gave me her cell number and ...

Am I Bitch For Not Donating Money to Your Kid’s Fundraiser?

Sorry, but I don't want to donate money to your husband's hockey fundraiser or your kid's school program this year or any year. It's not because I can't afford it, but it's because I find it all too invasive and impersonal. It makes for some awkward conversation when you're standing across my desk and shoving ...